tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7290987054981548703.post6994032604369387535..comments2023-07-02T05:10:09.598-03:00Comments on serious business: manning up IIseriouslyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11088430950069439625noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7290987054981548703.post-36076915190398933622009-01-29T14:09:00.000-02:002009-01-29T14:09:00.000-02:00my broader point was that by doing stuff that's sc...my broader point was that by doing stuff that's scary or uncomfortable some surprisingly good spill-over effects might result. <BR/><BR/>on the other hand, while i agree in principal -- and often in practice -- with the elegant point ("you're going to be sad anyway, might as well spend time with him"), it's also worth noting that spending more time with Joe might lead you to be less open to other potential connections. I say this as someone who always sucks the marrow out of every relationship that is tottering on failure out of the belief that "well, i'd be sad anyway, might as well get all of it". It turns out that for me, doing so does give me some satisfaction that i "gave it my all" and "enjoyed the time with her as best i could" and thus removes future nagging "would've should've could've"s. But it also exacts an emotional price that only gets redeemed, i think, once i've met someone else. and then it starts all over! woohoo. hang in there.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7290987054981548703.post-70996837642225753202009-01-29T14:01:00.000-02:002009-01-29T14:01:00.000-02:00this might be really obvious -- but even though yo...this might be really obvious -- but even though your instinct was not to tell Joe about Roger's advances, it might be -- much like just sitting and being still with Joe -- that once you actually do it, not only will it not be totally freaky, but it might actually help you get clarity on what the fuck Roger was doing (since Joe probably has more info on what makes the guy tick) and thus you end up feeling less insane.<BR/><BR/>but it does sound harrowing! <BR/><BR/>L.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com